I’m not referring to someone who makes decisions and lives their life based and what others want or perceive about them. I’m referring to the gut wrenching, heart breaking, hope crushing feeling you get when you see someone you love making horrible choices. Time, after time, after time, after time. And the horrible burden of having seen the train wreck before it occurred, without the ability to stop it. I know that we need to make our own mistakes and live our lives by ourselves for ourselves. But every now and then I find myself wishing I could just be the puppet master and pull the strings because I get tired of watching the people I love repeating the same destruction patterns.